I thought it about time I share my thoughts, to help those wanting to connect with loved ones who have passed away, because I receive a large number of enquiries from people wanting to know of good, or genuine psychics, especially from the US and UK. Although I’m going to share my thoughts, I’m also going to share how to use your own intuition to find the person you need!

Over the last few years I’ve done many readings but my real purpose, and the one I’m devoting my time to, is helping people make their own connection instead of doing readings. I firmly believe anyone can develop their own contact, and verify it, without the help of a medium or spiritualist. But I know some struggle initially to learn my simple technique, so in those cases, using someone else can be good, not only for answers, but to confirm your own fledgling contact with the Afterlife is real.

The problem is two fold. How do you find someone who is genuine, and then, how do you find one who’s good? I’m sure there are some genuine ones who work on the pay-per-minute basis, but I wouldn’t feel comfortable paying an Electrician on that basis. I’d want a quote, knowing what he estimated the job to be, and that’s the amount, and pay it. I don’t mind paying a good electrician more than the going rate if the work is good, but I still expect to know the amount. If he charged by the minute, how do I know how long the job will take? And how slow can he work? For those reasons, I personally do not believe the pay-per-minute services are a good idea.

I have stumbled across many who have suggested good people to me, but surprisingly, I have also heard criticism of most of them from others. So, why is there such a difference? If you ask an electrician to do a job, you describe it, he quotes for it, and you get the job. It may not be 100% as you wanted, but it will be close. But what of an interior designer, like you see on a lot of TV shows lately? They come in, take over, tell you to ‘trust them’ and a few days later, you have the finished product. It may be stunning. But it may also not be what you want, or expected. I’ve seen a few lately where the clients actually hated the finished result! Using a psychic is like that. You don’t really know what you’re getting because we’re all different.

Using the same ‘designer’ thought – you would either ask for contacts who have used them, or have spoken to someone you know who’s used them. That way, you can get an idea of what they’re like. Importantly, that still doesn’t address the issue of getting the unexpected, but it does give you a ‘vibe’ or ‘feel’ of what to expect. You will be closer to the mark.

If you GO INTO a spiritual or new age bookshop and you’re not used to it, it will be a weird experience, but hang in there. Tell them WHAT YOU WANT, what you expect. I find it’s very rare to find a shop that isn’t genuine. Misguided, weird, maybe, but I find most are genuinely trying to help. They will talk about psychics who may visit their store, or they know of. Now I want you to use your own intuition, your own, perhaps unknown spiritual contact with the Afterlife, to be guided in your decision.

Think of the person you wish to make contact with, BEFORE you walk in the store. If you’re searching the internet or phone book, use the same technique. I just find the ‘guidance’ you need is clearer, more noticeable, if it’s in person. Ask the person you want to connect with, to be with you as you seek your psychic, even though you may not be able to feel them near, or talk to them (yet). Ask them if the person you’re being told about, or the person/shop you’re dealing with, FEELS right. Immediately, you’ll get a ‘gut feel’ of “Yes” or “No”. It may be faint, it may not hit you in the face, but you will IMMEDIATELY have a split second feeling of “Yes” or “No”. Without thinking any more about it, accept that as the answer. If it’s “Yes” – go ahead and book a session or follow up with the name you’ve been given (and then use the same method when you contact them to enquire about a booking). If “No” – don’t, and go somewhere else, telling them “I’ll think about it”.

The next problem here is ‘what to expect’. Some clairvoyants or mediums make vivid spirit contact, with strong images, feelings or words. Some hear very clear voices; others see sharp and detailed images. But it’s not like playing a guitar. With a musical instrument, you’re either good, or not good. With Afterlife contact, it varies from person to person, from the psychic, to your expectations, to the person ‘coming through’. Some spirits come through strongly, others ’stand back’ somewhat. Keep this in mind when your session starts. I personally find if someone’s open to the process, even if I start off a bit ’shaky’, it’s gets clearer and better as we progress.

If at all possible, ask for clients who may be able to indicate what they think of the psychic – you don’t want to know if they’re “Good” or “Bad” – that’s open to opinion. What you want to know is HOW they share information. Are they ‘facts and figures’ or ‘emotions’ or ‘the future’ or whatever. From this TECHNIQUE, you’ll know if this is they type of experience you want or not.

Apart from the obvious possibility you’re with a phoney (but if you use the technique I just described, you shouldn’t have that experience), my only two concerns about the way a psychic shares information are these: If negative, DISTRESSING information comes through, without being offered in a positive way, giving the opportunity to change or improve or accept things (that is, without compassion) I think the person presenting the messages is uncaring. I believe any message, no matter how upsetting or terrible, can be presented with compassion, and I dislike those who try to scare or upset their clients unnecessarily.

The other thing is that Afterlife contact does not require a large amount of props. I know different psychics use various props to help them, but some use many different things to create the illusion of being genuine, and ‘gifted’. I have sat in a room of 100 psychics, all at desks, with virtually no props. These are people all with different abilities and methods, yet all worked with the minimum of accessories, and I was not been aware of a single complaint all day. Those who are good, and genuine, I believe do not need elaborate props to connect. In my opinion, that is to impress the client.

Approach your search thing with an acute awareness of ‘gut feel’ from the loved one you want to contact. When you are having your session, remember it’s like working with a designer who may share things differently to what you expect. Don’t be too critical with wanting ‘proof’ – whilst you want it to show contact is real, if you are too demanding, no amount of proof will be enough, and you will miss the messages. I say this with caring, but it’s true. If your session is 1 hour, and you spend 45 minutes wanting proof, you’ll be disappointed with the content of your session’.

Thanks to a quirk in the search engine world I’m known as “Afterlife Phil G” and if my thoughts help you, you or your friends can find more information by searching that term on Goggle, or my web site on spirit contact. (philg.net.au or afterlifephilg.com). I accidentally discovered the psychic ability I believe exists in everyone, yet is ignored, disbelieved, or suppressed by so many. My goal is always to share how ordinary people can contact family and friends in the afterlife themselves.

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